tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3124283.post4676962941453135567..comments2023-10-23T11:58:43.116-05:00Comments on Rhetoric & Rockets: Barthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01956864183240824354noreply@blogger.comBlogger1125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3124283.post-82784797132070968472010-04-15T16:08:31.024-05:002010-04-15T16:08:31.024-05:00Another good one, and one that hits home for many....Another good one, and one that hits home for many. I'm surprised there aren't more comments here.<br /><br />My two cents. There is a bully-factory: bullies make bullies. Many of those who were bullied go on to bully. It's a nasty gift that keeps on giving.<br /><br />Those who were scarred visibly are outwardly branded with bruises, cuts, broken body parts, so the potential victim might "see them coming" and recognize them by their telltale signs.<br /><br />Those who I find most insidious are those whose scars are not explicit, rather, whose damage has festered and fermented into some nasty psychological soup that might not come to a boil ever...but may simmer and pervade every relationship that follows. <br /><br />These are the people who obtain power over others, sometimes by the nicest means (even under the guise of "helping"), and then exert their power and play out their anger at being bullied (and unable to control it) by controlling others. They would be the first to tell you they would never hurt a fly, all they "intend" is to help, but turn around and push buttons, just because they can. Their scars run so deep, eating away at their self-image, sometimes creating a package of a person who is so needy, yet unable to trust and reciprocate in a healthy relationship.<br /> <br />This girl knew her enemies were enemies. They did not represent themselves as friends or lovers. For every one of those overtly dangerous bullies, my bet is there are hundreds of others that the bully-factory created, out there walking around and hurting people daily.<br /><br />I applaud that you both recognize you were bullied and seek not to let the factory mint another. <br /><br />Thanks for speaking up - and out. <br /><br />D2<br /><br />PS - what's a mullycom? These captcha's are just a hoot!EtTuD2https://www.blogger.com/profile/01054334765830926754noreply@blogger.com